Hypnosis can help release you from the traumas of bullying

Have you been bullied? Hypnosis, NLP and EFT can help you achieve the life and confidence you really deserve.

Over the years I have worked with many clients who have been bullied at school or in the workplace. Some are in their middle age or older and some not long out of University. Some may come to see me about that issue itself and others will find that as we go through a session their past history of being bullied is a large part of the blocks that have been keeping them from achieving their goals and feeling confident and positive about themselves.

Bullying can take various forms including school bullying, work bullying and cyber bullying. Much aggressive behaviours can also come under the category of bullying. Bullying can be social, verbal or physical and may involve threats, taunts, embarrassment and even unsavoury gestures.

The long term effects of being bullied can be devastating and lead to depression, loneliness, lack of confidence and self esteem and sometimes the risk of suicide.

The good thing is that normally it really does not take a great deal of time to shift the old emotional wounds around the experience of having been bullied that will have often blighted people’s lives for many years. Using the appropriate techniques skilfully really helps clients make a massive turn around in their confidence and self-esteem.

Sometimes with this sort of work clients may initially feel worried that they will have to re experience and go through all the details of past uncomfortable ordeals. This need not be the case and the tools I use are deigned to achieve a rapid and permanent resolution with no, or very little discomfort. Also it is not necessary to have a conscious memory of the events to be able to release them. The unconscious mind will protect us if the conscious mind finds it too much to handle however it is still possible to clear this information even though it may not be accessible to the conscious mind. Releasing the past experiences means that they will no longer have a hold over one’s life.

A good therapist can make a massive difference to a person’s life so taking your time to find someone you will feel comfortable working with is very important. My goal is not only to help clients through their trauma in the most comfortable way possible but to give them tools that they can take with them to continue building the life that they deserve with confidence and self belief.

Hypnosis, NLP and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) are valuable resources I use on a daily basis with my clients to help them achieve their goals and become the person that they want to be. I also incorporate simple but empowering strategies that I have developed over the years that give my clients the ability to adjust their feelings and experiences in the moment wherever they are and whatever they are doing. This is an amazingly empowering experience and can help anyone gain inner confidence and self belief.

If you would like to free yourself from the tyranny of past or present bullying do call me 07970218451 or email roger@rogerfoxwell.co.uk and I will be happy to let you know how I can help.

Procrastination and how Hypnosis can help

What you can do to overcome procrastination and “writer’s block”

Recently, comic star and actor Jennifer Saunders has been using hypnotherapy to help overcome procrastination and gain productivity. She has been writing a script for an upcoming big screen version of the comedy “Absolutely Fabulous” in which she co-starred with Joanna Lumley and has been experiencing some kind of “writers block”.

Procrastination and meeting deadlines are issues that many of us experience and I often get asked to help people with this. Hypnosis can be a very powerful and rapid way to help generate focus and concentration as well as release any negative programmes that may be holding us back.

Working recently with an artist who had a really strong desire to organise workshops and spend more time developing the talent that she obviously had it was interesting to find that she also had various unconscious blocks that were preventing her from moving forward with her projects. When this happens we are struggling with an internal conflict. However the problem is that we often don’t know what the conflict is about and can easily blame ourselves for being lazy and unmotivated. This thinking can then set up a spiral of negativity which will eat into our self esteem and take us even further away from achieving our goals.

However when we have the tools to release the hold that this negative programme has over us this can make all the difference to our confidence, self belief and help generate the creativity needed to express ourselves in our chosen area. This may be writing, art, music, computer programming or even having to get on with cleaning the house or running a business.

“Beating yourself up” over this is obviously a poor option and will only make you feel more dispirited. Once we learn how to develop confidence, creativity and self belief alongside practical steps that will help us get on with things then it becomes possible to generate a really productive mind set.

My client has now already presented successful workshops and has another two scheduled in the next few weeks, plus she is enjoying her talent and becoming even more creative. So if you need help with this issue find a good professional hypnotherapist who can help you and the rewards may well be even greater than you might imagine.

If you have any confidence or procrastination issues and would like to use hypnosis to help generate more of your true potential just call me on 07970218451 or email roger@rogerfoxwell.co.uk and I will be happy to discuss how I can help you.

Overactive Bladder

Overactive Bladder issues

About 10% of men and women over the age of 65 have bladder control issues but this issue is not just a problem for people in that age range.

If you find yourself suffering from this issue, as with any physical symptom the first place to go is to your GP so that you can get a medical diagnosis. There can be various physical issues relating to urinary incontinence so it is important to get checked out first.

I have been helping a couple of clients recently with what the advertisements on television would term “overactive bladder”. However there are often other issues such as anxiety and unconscious triggers that may be contributing to this. We are probably only connected with 5 to 10% of of our conscious awareness since our body and mind is constantly making decisions for us beneath out conscious awareness. Now this is absolutely crucial since we just don’t have the time or the tools to monitor everything that is going on in our system. Being able to hand over the everyday running of our bodily functions and place our familiar habits in the control of our autonomic nervous system allows us to comfortably continue carrying out our everyday activities without sending our brains into serious overload while we can pay attention to the experiences we want to focus on.

Now this all works fine most of the time but every now and then we may be getting messages from our unconscious to our conscious mind that we don’t necessarily need to act on at that particular moment. For instance we are all familiar with the truism that the sound of running water may bring on a desire to go for a pee. It may not have even occurred to us before we hear it but that sound can immediately trigger the sensation of needing to pass water. Anxiety can play a large part in this and once we begin to get anxious around it then our unconscious may begin to start triggering messages for other events and it can soon start to pray on the mind. Soon the body and mind may begin to react with that message at all sorts of inconvenient times. Then the bladder will become less used to holding as much fluid as before and so a vicious cycle begins to take over.

I use hypnosis and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to help clients relax around this issue and also to be able to recognise and control the triggers. This process really helps regain control on a physical and unconscious level. It is good to have a techniques such as Kegel exercises to help on a physical level but unless we can recognise when we are being driven by automatic unconscious triggers then it is much harder to make the physical exercises work as efficiently.

Below are a couple of useful sites that may help but remember that there is help available without resorting to over the counter drugs and having to suffer awkwardness and embarrassment around this problem.

If you would like to know more call me (07907218451) or email and I will be happy to help you.


Mercola article

 (Kegel exercises for men)
(Kegel exercises for women)

Prescription Drug Addiction

Prescription Drug Addiction and how hypnosis can help

Drug abuse is something that is never far away from the news but prescription drug addiction is an issue that is not so often discussed.

Abuse of prescribed drugs can take the form of taking pills prescribed for someone else, overuse of painkillers or tranquillisers, asking for repeat prescriptions before the last one has run out, a feeling of dependency on the drug and many other variations. Even over the counter drugs can be addictive and can have very serious side effects if taken out-with the recommended dosage.

 

The problem is learning how to come off prescription medication (which always should be done under medical supervision) and finding out why there appears to be a need to take this medication inappropriately.

I have successfully worked with clients in this area for many years and similarly when treating smoking, food issues and substance abuse, hypnotherapy has a very powerful and effective track record in helping people with all sorts of addictions. I use a combination of Hypnosis, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and NLP plus simple but effective techniques that my clients can take with them and use to continue at home thus continuing the work done in the therapy room. This helps regain that feeling of control that is much needed for addiction issues and speed up the process of recovery. Even pain can be alleviated with

hypnosis which may help reduce medication when medically appropriate.

If you or anyone you know has a problem getting off prescription (or over the counter) medication it is important to get help from your GP and also look for good professional therapeutic help to remove the cravings and deal with any issues that may have led up to the addiction.

For more information call 07970218451 or email roger@rogerfoxwell.co.uk and I will be happy to help and answer any questions you may have.

Confidence. Can we achieve it if we don’t have it?

I find it fascinating that although my clients book in for so many different issues, in many cases it often does not take long to discover that a large part of the problem comes down to confidence. Some people are very confident at work but not so out in the everyday world and others confident in social situations but not so at work. It may be authority figures, people who talk loudly or just everyone in general who seems to know more, have more to say, be better at things or just seem to have more confidence than we do.

Since we are all in situations every single day where we are communicating with other people, whether at work, socially or just in passing it can feel as if there is no let up to this problem. All these situations just seem to exacerbate those uncomfortable feelings and the emotional and social discomfort it breeds.

The big question is where does the problem come from and how can we fix the issue? Many issues are born in childhood and when we are young it can take only a word or a look for us to read into even a light hearted comment some slight that can still be stuck in our unconscious decades later. This is why it is so important to clear those old messages before we build our new programme of confidence in ourselves. It may seem like a huge task but I have found that with the right techniques one can help clear even those issues we don’t consciously know about in less than one session. Once that is clear then the way is open to move forward and build a new foundation of self belief and confidence. To help make these changes I use a mix of hypnosis, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), NLP and importantly some simple but very powerful techniques to help my clients make real changes to how they feel right there and then in any situation as it is happening.

Why is this is an area in which I am passionate about about helping people with? Two BIG reasons for me are a) I have experienced it myself and b) I have spent years researching and developing a series of strategies and techniques that will help my clients literally power up their own self belief and confidence in any situation.

Lack of confidence can be with us for years but with the best help and techniques you could, in just a matter of weeks if not days be gaining confidence in ways you previously never imagined. In fact one of my techniques will show you how you can literally “step into” the confident person you know you deserve to be. So if you feel it really is time to step into and be the person you know is really you, confidently and comfortably do give me a call (07970218451) or email roger@rogerfoxwell.co.uk and I will be happy to discuss how I can help you.

Panic attacks, energy drinks and alcohol. A lethal combination?

 The dangers of energy drinks

A recent study at the University of Bonn in Germany has shown that energy drinks “intensify heart contractions” and can in fact change how the heart beats. This research comes as no surprise to me and I am sure to many doctors and therapists having to deal with the mounting number of people experiencing panic attacks. In another survey of US hospitals by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services in 2013 it was found that there had been a doubling of emergency room visits linked to energy drinks over the previous four years.

I regularly help clients who have been experiencing panic attacks and anxiety and this is a trend I also have noticed. Many of my clients will recount that their first experience of a panic attack initially came after a heavy night out drinking, after drinking too many energy drinks or a combination of the two.

If you have experienced panic attacks in the past or would like to take precautions against one occurring here are some points to be aware of. Obviously panic attacks are not only triggered by energy drinks and alcohol but it is important that we are aware of the dangers of drinking too much of these sort of drinks.

  • Energy drinks contain up to three times the amount of caffeine there is in coffee or cola.

 

  • Drinking energy drinks on top of alcohol, cola or coffee could have very unpleasant consequences.

 

  • According to medical advice too much caffeine can result in rapid heart beat, palpitations and even seizure so do make it your business to know how much caffeine you are consuming at any one time. Caffeine can also be found in certain medicines so always check the label.

 

  • Medical advice is that children and people with certain health conditions should avoid energy drinks.

Using the techniques I offer, three or four sessions will often be all it takes to turn around the discomfort and desperation that panic attacks can bring. Then you can begin the process of engaging with and enjoying life in a much healthier and relaxed way than before. If you would like more information please call me on 07970218451 or email roger@rogerfoxwell.co.uk  and I will be happy to help you. If you are unable to see me personally you can always book a session over Skype which can be an equally effective way to work.

Anger and why it is important to do something about it now

Anger its consequences and how to get help

Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. Although anger is a primary and natural emotion that we all experience at times it is there for our survival and losing control of this emotion on a regular basis can have severe consequences.

Anger results in a loss of control of the mid brain and an increasing sensitivity to stress. As the stress continues it then becomes easier and easier to activate this part of the brain thereby leaving one less able to activate the prefrontal cortex, the rational, reasoning part of the brain. Anger over activates the sympathetic nervous system and we lose the ability to control the balance required with the parasympathetic nervous system. This floods the system with adrenalin and an inability to control one’s emotions. Spending one’s life with “a short fuse” and the “fight or flight” system turned up full is a recipe for some very unpleasant experiences emotionally, physically, professionally and in one’s relationships.

If you think you or someone close may have anger problems check this list and see if you recognise some of the symptoms.

  • Do you have periods when you refuse to speak to people or will not help them?
  • Are you angry about something that happened in your past?
  • Does anger affect your life and the lives of people around you?
  • Is anger affecting your health?
  • Do you experience actual physical outbursts making you feel out of control?

Any one of the above can take a big toll on health, endanger one’s career and harm your relationships.

To help yourself:

  • Talk about it. Bottling things up only makes it worse.
  • Try relaxing therapies such as massage, yoga and meditation.
  • Start to recognise situations when you can feel it coming on and immediately take yourself out of those situations.
  • Learn healthy breathing techniques.
  • SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP before things get worse.

I have successfully worked with many clients with anger issues. Hypnosis and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) are ideal techniques to help bring the trigger responses down to a controlled and comfortable level. Both EFT and Hypnosis work by relaxing the sympathetic nervous system and engaging the parasympathetic nervous system. When the sympathetic and the parasympathetic (relaxation) systems are in balance then we can deal much more comfortably with our work, our relationships and with ourselves. When they are out of balance it becomes very hard to control our emotions and actions.

With the techniques I use, three or four sessions will often be all it takes to turn this around and begin the process of engaging with and enjoying life in a much healthier and relaxed way than before. If you would like more information please call me on 07970218451 or email roger@rogerfoxwell.co.uk and I will be happy to help you. If you are unable to see me personally you can always book a session over Skype which can be an equally effective way to work.

Skype Therapy

Skype being used to provide therapy

Using Skype for therapy has been around for quite a while although not everybody is familiar with the concept. With a video link it is a great way to communicate and work with clients. I have done many therapy telephone sessions in the past but with clients enquiring about my work from as far afield as the USA, Australia, India and Cyprus it is proving to be a wonderful way to work with clients who would otherwise be unable to see me on a one to one basis.

Other reasons that Skype can be an invaluable way to communicate with clients is for people who have physical or emotional reasons that mean they are unable to leave the house. In these cases I can work with agrophobia issues, chronic anxiety and many other problems even when a client, who may be local or in another part of the country cannot come directly to my office.

NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and EFT (EmotionalFreedom Technique) lend themselves very well to this medium and since we are in a light trance regularly during the day I often use an “eyes open state” of hypnosis even when working in my office on a one to one basis. This works very well with Skype and the client is in always control and fully consciously aware throughout the session.

So if you are local or thousands of miles away and are interested in learning more about how a Skype session could help you make significant changes in your life you do contact me and do look at my website. All you need is a computer with a webcam, a decent broadband connection and a Skype account which is very easy to set up. The rest is just the same as answering your telephone but through your computer.

Flying Phobia

One of my posts deals with Flying Phobia so it is always nice to get a text back from a recent client when they arrive home from their holiday and no phobia. A recent client wanted to go to Spain with her friends but was absolutely terrified of flying and had already backed out of a previous holiday for that reason.

We had one initial session a few weeks before she was due to fly and she immediately found that she really was not worrying about it anymore at all. However as the date got closer she began to experience some of the old feelings so thought she had better come and see me for a back up session.

It is interesting working with something such as flying since the conscious mind is often not quite sure whether any change has occurred. Until you experience stepping onto the plane you don’t know consciously if the therapy has worked. Although our conscious mind knows that our fear is irrational and unfounded it is interesting that when our unconscious allows us to let go of the fear the conscious often still needs proof and is still not always totally convinced. This is where we need to trust this creative part of ourselves and avoid too many internal questions as the positive change becomes a natural experience.

Hypnosis allows us to bypass our conscious questioning and that is exactly what we did in the session just a couple of days before her holiday. It also allows us to visualise a sequence of events in such a way that they become, in a sense, real. Visualising the flight and other important details whilst connecting it to feelings of relaxation and calm can, according to research, be as powerfully compelling as experiencing the real thing.

Oh yes, and here is the text she sent me when she got home:

“Hi Roger just bk my hol was absolutely fab i was gr8 on plane was a bit nervous at 1st then completely went away quite enjoyed it defo do it again i even fell asleep on the way back … thanks very much”

The initial “bit nervous at 1st” is an example of the conscious mind still not quite believing that it really can feel safe. However when the unconscious has been reprogrammed powerfully enough the conscious mind is then able to take a back seat and just relax.  Somewhere within us we really do know how to make these changes and by allowing that part to do what it needs to do and change what it needs to change  the new feelings will naturally become fully integrated into our actual live experience.