How to release negative thoughts and feelings?

Tapping on your 3rd eye to help release negative thoughts and feelings

Here is a surprisingly effective and quick way to release negativity, intrusive thoughts and uncomfortable feelings.

So let’s get into it right away. Release negative thoughts

First, think of something that has been worrying you or irritating you (nothing too serious) and notice how it makes you feel. Perhaps a little tense, butterflies in your stomach, an uncomfortable uneasiness?

Just become a little more aware of that feeling for a few seconds

Now place a couple of fingers gently on the centre of your forehead. (Another option for the 3rd eye is slightly above the gap between both eyebrows.)

Tap gently for a few moments thinking about the issue.

As you tap engage your peripheral vision so you are aware of a wider range of vision around you even though you are still keeping your eyes relaxed and ahead as you tap. As you do this notice any subtle changes in your thinking and maybe a release or slowing in your breathing.

Now take your hand down and notice how your abdomen feels. Notice any difference in your feelings about that thought. It may have gone or just diminished in intensity.

Try this wherever and whenever is appropriate, any time day or night. It really is effective and so simple

When the 3rd eye is blocked we can feel stressed, confused and disconnected.

When the 3rd eye is open we will feel a healthier emotional balance plus feelings of safety and security within ourselves and around others.

If you are not familiar with the chakras the 3rd Eye is the 6th of 7 chakras found in the Indian chakra energy system. This system dates back at least to 1500BC and there is plenty of information on the internet if you would like to find out more.

Now even if all this sounds very strange the 7 chakras, which start at the base of the spine, closely follow the path of the vagus nerve and when we balance our vagus nerve in a healthy way (which is an important part of my work with clients) it aligns with the healthy benefits of balancing our chakras. So in one way or another they are both working to help balance the same body/mind systems.

Please feel free to contact me on rogerfoxwell.therapy@gmail.com for more information about my work and how I may be able to help you using Hypnotherapy, NLP, EFT, and a range of empowering healing modalities.

Focus your attention and stop those Negative Thoughts in their Tracks

Negative Thinking Negative thinking is a primal programme hard wired for us to look out for danger in the jungle. If we were in the jungle and not looking out for danger 24 hrs a day we wouldn’t be there for very long would we!

However we’re not in the jungle now BUT we are in a different jungle. A jungle that is often throwing stress and anxiety at us all day long.

This everyday barrage of worry and panic is extremely bad for us both physically and mentally.

So how can we change this without having to spend five years on the psychotherapist’s couch?

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When it’s safe and convenient to do try this

Just begin walking around your room in a circle looking at the floor, head down and letting your mind wander with the usual nonsense and rubbish that seems to be washing around in our heads most days.

As you do this notice what sort of thoughts and feelings are bouncing around in your head. Ask yourself are they of any real any value? Notice your body posture.

Now, stop where you are for a few seconds and lift your head up a little. Set your eyes looking ahead with a little more focus than you might normally have while noticing your eyebrows slightly lifting at same time.

Continue to do another couple of circuits and become aware of the changes in your body, feelings and thoughts.

Where are the negative thoughts??

Most likely virtually gone!!

You have focused your attention in a different place and with a different energy.

This is very subtle but very powerful and all you have to do is just “check in” and put this into practise every now then during the day.

It will soon become automatic and you will find the old pattern of constant negative thoughts becoming much quieter. This will leave you free to experience an easy natural everyday relaxation and a much more positive focus in your life.

Isn’t that what we are all looking for?

If you would like to find out more about how I offer clients, online & one to one, remarkably simple but powerfully effective ways to help positively change their lives for ever please visit:

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SMILE

What happens to the brain and body when we smile?

What happens to anxiety and stress when we smile?

When we smile we instantly generate a happy flood of “feel good” brain chemicals. Neuropeptides that relieve stress and anxiety, neurotransmitters such as serotonin (an antidepressant) and endorphins that are pain relievers are all instantly activated, giving the whole body and mind a quick, smiley happy workout!  Smile Lady

And these are just a few of the positive changes the body makes for us.

As we grow older we are less likely to smile as much as we used to. However each time we smile we will appear more friendly and reliable and people will find us more attractive. They are also more likely to mirror our smile back to us which makes everyone feel good.

Now we don’t even have to generate a huge grin to get these benefits. Just an almost microscopic lifting of the edges of the lips will set off this natural cascade of “happy” chemicals.

And the people around us will very likely be unconsciously joining in with their own smiles.

To feel the benefits all you need to do is to engage your facial muscles with a little outward stretching of the mouth and a little pulling up of the cheek muscles.

Well you don’t need me to tell you how to do that do you!?” 😃

This is so simple and is something vitally important to our physical and mental well being. A tiny magical move that brightens up our own lives and also everyone around us.

Just “check in” with it every now and then throughout the day and enjoy the difference.

For more information on Hypnotherapy, EFT and EMDR and how I help clients achieve their goals and improve their lives please email or call and I will be very happy to discuss how I could help you .

HELP! Racing Heart? Panic? Anxiety? Stress? Tinnitus? Etc…..

Learn to breathe much more efficiently to help control and relieve these and other mind/body issues

Disclaimer: Always seek professional medical advice to check your state of health

The way we breathe plays a massive part in our physical and mental health and it will be very difficult to solve the above and many other issues effectively if we are not breathing correctly. The majority of clients who come to see me with stress, anxiety or panic attacks are (obviously) still breathing but not correctly! Anxiety Stress

If you watch a baby breathing you will see how easy and natural it looks. However, as we grow up, life gets in the way with a disappointment here and a knock there, and over time that continues to build up leaving us in the fight and flight state, looking for danger at every corner.

This is a heavy drain on our resources and over time wears us out, exacerbating the tension in the body and leaving us physically and mentally exhausted.

Breathing correctly is paramount to our health so here is a simple way to learn how to do it much more efficiently.

I would suggest to at first practise this lying down, soles of your feet flat on the floor, knees pointing upwards and a cushion under your head.

If we first try this sitting or standing we can become confused because the connection between brain and body has been slowly getting lost over time. Lying on the floor means we can’t move our shoulders and the brain /body can relearn the natural breathing pathways and muscular connections.

THE SEQUENCE

So, lying on the floor or bed, when you feel comfortable in this position place one hand on your abdomen and the other on your chest just below the collarbones.

Now we get to the part that seems so simple but can take a few days to get used to especially if we have been upper chest breathing and not using the lungs efficiently.

Take a slow breath in and notice what moves.

If correct you will start the breath from your belly and your lower hand will move up. If not you will be lifting the shoulders and breathing only into the upper part of the chest and only the hand on your chest will rise.

Now focus on your belly and push in and out a few times with your abdomen muscles.

Now using those muscles breathe deeply in as if all the air is going into your belly. It’s not air but the diaphragm pushing down and making more space for the lungs to fill with air.

Do this a few times to get that new sequence working.

With a little practise you won’t need to think about your abdomen muscles, they will strengthen and work simply as the diaphragm moves down and the organs move out of the way to give more space.

The next part brings the ribcage into play.

From the same position “breath half the air into the belly” and then continue to breathe in the rest of the air into the chest without raising the shoulders. Notice what is happening as the air physically fills the lungs. As the lungs expand so will the ribcage expand at which point you will feel the hand on your chest moving up with each breath.

The more you get a feel for this the more you will feel the ribcage expanding not just at the front but also through the sides and back.

Keeping your hand on your belly, experiment by moving the top hand and touch the side of your ribcage. Now as you breath in and out you will feel the ribs expand at the side of your chest.

Practise this in bed on the floor only for a minute or two each day until you get used to it but you will soon find that this sequence will become natural and you will be doing it without thinking.

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Are you looking on the bright side?

Your memories are stored in your eyes and a simple way to let go of negative memories.

Did you know that when you remember an event your eyes are running it through in the same sequence it happened? A study published in the journal Cerebral Cortex discovered that the brain and the eyes used the same sequence of connections and movements just as they happened in the original event. Rapid Eye Movement Therapy

Using the original sequence of eye movements and the brain’s original response all the different parts of that memory are condensed and connected into a replay of what originally happened

The various eye movement therapies such as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) and Rapid Eye Movement Therapy make use of the eye movements to help clear trauma such as PTSD

When working with clients with PTSD and trauma and those with and stress and anxiety I use various forms of eye movements to help release the memory of the original trauma and discomfort. This can be done with minimum need to cognitively go through the whole event which can often be very uncomfortable for the client. Our unconscious mind knows all about the traumas we remember, the ones we don’t remember and the ones we could never remember. So why not let the unconscious mind do the work?

I often notice how many of the issues we are experiencing are reflected in our language such as “If you keep looking in the same place you’ll get the same result”. So try this for yourself by thinking of a past event (choose something happy for this!) and notice whether you look down and to which side (left or right) you look.

Most of us, but not all will probably look down and to the left for what’s “left in our memory”. So if your preferred side is the left try looking to the right any time you find yourself thinking of something stressful.

When I ask clients to look to the other side and “tell me that story again” it’s amazing how many clients either find it difficult to verbalise their feelings from the side they don’t normally use. And often they can’t even tell me what the issue was!

So next time you find yourself stuck in a negative thinking loop notice where your eyes are and switch over to the other side!

A Hypnotherapy Session

Hypnotherapy session? – what can I expect?

What defines good therapy? How professional is it? Will it do what I want? And will it need lots of appointments? All good questions and here are some answers.

My work is based on how we can easily and effectively adjust our thoughts, feelings and experiences in a healthy way every day of our lives. Hypnotherapy Session

It’s very hard for us to turn around such feelings as panic, stress and anxiety by thinking our way out of them. Our body chemistry is programmed to look out for danger 24/7 as we would if we were in the jungle and although we are not in that primal jungle now we are still hard wired to react as if we were. So the question is how do I adjust billions of neurons in my brain so that I can change my feelings and experiences in a healthier way every single day?

Here is a guide to demonstrate the path a first session is likely to go and how it could help you answer many of those questions.

1/ Releasing trauma is a must but wouldn’t it be good if we could let the unconscious mind do the work? After all that is the part of you that knows all about your issues. Releasing old issues and traumas this way means you won’t have to trawl through every upsetting moment of the past but let your creative mind make the changes and release them for you.

2/ Next you will discover how to literally “look in the right place” to help those old experiences lose their power and negative energy. Simple? Yes it is and I will show you how.

3/ Then we will use very simple and important breathing techniques to help bring down feelings of anxiety, stress or panic wherever you are, and in whatever situation you are in. You may have been told in the past to just “relax and take a deep breath” but that is rarely going to work. With the right tools you will be able to work “on the spot” with what ever issues come up. And that really is the time when we need help.

4/ Negative thoughts can take up a large part of our thinking patterns but generally only make things worse. Once again I will show you very simply how to start cutting out these damaging thinking patterns on the spot, as and when we are thinking them.

5/ Most of the session up to here is carried out with the eyes open, and as we continue we will already be engaging a state of focused awareness which is just one of the many trances that we drop into at different times throughout the day. At the end of this session I often give a 3 minute relaxation and hypnosis sequence that you can take with you. Used at home (it takes just 3 minutes) this will rapidly bring you to a much more comfortable state of calm and focus in your everyday life.

That will usually be the end of the first session and using these techniques and strategies helps me offer clients significant changes in their lives in just 2 – 4 sessions. These and other valuable and simple techniques and strategies you will take with you and be able to use them for the rest of your life.

I know they work because within a week of the first session the vast majority of clients will have made significant changes with the issues we are working on.

For instance just this month two cases of needle phobia completed successfully in two sessions. Also someone with lifelong everyday anxiety and IBS, noticeable improvements after just two sessions. And a client with panic attacks every day who literally could not swallow whole pieces of food and was living on a diet of smoothies. She was eating a chicken tikka straight after the second session!

It’s not magic but it’s nice when it feels like it is.

Could breathing and looking be among the most important things to improve in our lives?

What have you been doing all day? Looking where you are going I presume.

What have you been doing all day and all night? Breathing I hope.Breathing fresh air

Looking and breathing are fundamental to our lives yet it is very easy to take them for granted. Think about it, if we aren’t “looking in the right place” and not breathing efficiently then we are spending a large part of our lives running our physical and mental systems inefficiently. This can lead to physical and mental issues, less control over our daily experiences and less pleasure and fulfillment in our daily lives.

In my hypnotherapy, EFT and holistic therapy sessions these areas are two of the most important starting points and foundations for helping clients heal on any level.

For instance, using our peripheral vision helps us engage our vagus nerve and the parasympathetic relaxation part of our autonomic nervous system. However, looking down and holding our awareness to a narrow field of vision will send us into the “fight and flight” mode of our nervous system. These two modes of awareness are quite different and each generate massively different body chemicals, neurological connections and feelings. We could read as many scientific articles and studies as we like but the only real way to actually improve our experience of the feelings we would rather have, and experience fewer of the feelings we don’t want is by choosing to connect with the appropriate body and neurological connections at their optimal levels.

When we were borne and into our early childhood our bodies would breath with a perfectly natural balanced physical harmony. But life came along giving us a “knock” here and a “kick” there so to protect ourselves we had to tense up, go into fight and flight, breathe into our upper chest and brace our shoulders to save us from predators and danger. Soon we would unconsciously be locked into this primal pattern to help “keep us safe”.

However by relearning our original breathing patterns we can get our whole body and brain to respond and help regain the original efficient and healthy ways to direct the balance of oxygen and carbon dioxide into our bodies. And without having to know how it all works.

So are we going to continue to “feel a bit down” or wouldn’t we prefer to feel that

“things are looking up”. 

It’s hard wired into our language so why not rewire it back into the body and brain just like

“a breath of fresh air”

To find out more about how I help my clients make the changes in their lives they are looking for, please visit my website www.rogerfoxwell.co.uk

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How to help cure the yips, the bow shakes, performance stress with hypnotherapy and EFT

This is a post for anyone struggling with the yips in golf, snooker etc, for musicians with bow shakes or lip control issues. Also darts players who can’t let go of the dart and in fact any high performance skills where the messages from the brain to the body seem to have broken down for no apparent reason.

I have worked with pro golfers, world class snooker players, professional footballers and all levels of players and performers in the amateur world from tennis and bowls to darts. I use a range of unique therapeutic and practical techniques To help professionals and amateurs fine tune those subtle but important movements that make all the difference between success and failure. Yips

So some information on my background and how use my own performing experience to help clients in many professions get their very best performance results on a daily basis

I have been working as a therapist for 25 years but my first career was as a professional orchestral violinist and that helped me gather a great deal of first hand experience of the joys and the stresses and strains of performing with top orchestras in concert halls all over the world. As musicians know, once you’ve played that note you can’t go back and, at the same time you’ve still got to keep up!

As with any skill both professionals and amateurs will experience the pressures of performance appearing just when they don’t need it. That final putt on the last green, potting the black, hitting the bulls eye etc. Unfortunately these are times when a seemingly hidden force can suddenly throw all the hours and months of perfecting our skills right out of the window.

So this led me to putting together and developing a programme that would help performers in virtually all areas use their skills and confidence to their highest standards and avoid old doubts and worries getting in the way of their technical abilities.

Over the years I have extended the range of techniques available and here are a few pointers and a short resume of how I help clients untangle what was once a pleasurable experience and smoothly executed movement that now feels almost completely uncontrollable. By putting the performer back in the driving seat emotionally and physically they can get back to enjoying the skills and pleasure they deserve from their chosen profession or hobby

I generally start with clearing old blocks and past experiences that will very likely be contributing to the issues. To do this I use light hypnosis to help the unconscious “do the work” since it tends to know a lot more about what’s going on than our conscious mind does.

Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping on acupressure points whilst verbalising the problems and releasing them) is also a very powerful way to clear issues from the past that are still connected to our nervous system. Tapping on acupressure points, where an acupuncturist would put a needle in, allows the brain and body to unravel intrusive messages from brain to muscle and rebuild a smoother, stronger and healthier connection that relates to the standard of performance we would expect.

Knowing the best way to breathe and how to control the heart rate and oxygen levels in the body is vital for to achieve best results. Being able to breathe, in a controlled and relaxed manner is vitally important and even more so when we are in a high tension situation.

Just taking a “deep breath” won’t hack it. This is likely to be counterproductive especially if we start our breathing into the upper chest and lifting the shoulders. Deeper and controlled diaphragmatic breathing which allows the diaphragm to move down on the in breath and filling the ribcage and chest with air naturally is the way to help the whole body achieve a good performance mode.

Generally in stress situations muscles are literally “fighting each other” for dominance which plays havoc with our putting or a being able to draw a snooker cue smoothly back and forward.

To get the correct muscles to operate fluidly in the right order a relaxed but heightened awareness is used visualised in hypnosis or a light trance. We spend most of our time in some sort of trance but giving the ourselves the option to choose our trance is giving ourselves command of the situation.

I have purposely made my work so that we can make complex changes with simple body and mind changes. That way most of the exercises I offer are available to practise immediately on a daily basis in our everyday life. For instance we are looking through our eyes all day, we are using our sensory perceptions all day, we are breathing all day. If we start practising the controlling of our fine tuning and awareness of our actions and the correct sequencing of our breathing then we are laying a solid base for the results we are looking for.

Covid, Hypnotherapy and Health Anxiety

Since Covid spread around the world Health Anxiety is probably even more prevalent than ever before. However obsessive worrying about one’s health is nothing new and nothing unusual.

But it can easily turn into an obsession that takes over one’s life. Continuously checking Google, worrying, looking for confirmation from friends, if these habits and more are taking over your life then it may be time to take a step back and ask Health Anxiety

yourself if you are not becoming obsessed with your health in an unhealthy way.

Of course it is important that our first step is to get good medical advice and look after ourselves physically and emotionally. Unfortunately continuous worrying about one’s physical health for no apparent reason is not going to help our mental health. This worry will negatively impact both our mental and physical health and it will certainly diminish the pleasure of our own life.

Bringing down the anxiety around this issue will actually enhance the body’s natural resources to keep healthy and to heal. It will also open the door to getting out of the negative loop we have made for ourselves.

How best to do this?

Hypnosis is renowned for it’s ability to help us relax deeply and rapidly. Being able to relax is of prime importance and hypnosis can be learned very quickly and effectively.

Hypnotherapy can give you the tools to help move your mind away from negative circular thinking very rapidly. It is also very effective in helping releasing any past material that may have contributed to this “not so merry go round” of obsessive thinking.

I also use Emotional Freedom Technique and EMDR which are powerful techniques in themselves to help clients release old thoughts and habits, bringing them back into a much more balanced way of thinking and feeling about things.

Don’t get stuck and overwhelmed with worry when you can take this issue back into your control far quicker than you may have imagined.

Find yourself an accredited hypnotherapist to help you turn this around.

For more information about my One to One and Online sessions please email or call and we can discuss how I can help

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How modern Hypnotherapy and EFT can be used with the ancient Chakra system

Seven Chakras

The origins of the seven chakras probably began in India around 1500 to 500 BC. They relate to seven points in the body starting at the base of the spine and traveling to the crown of the head. 

They are depicted as 7 whirling balls of energy located along a line starting at the base of the tailbone and ending just above the top of the head. Each chakra has its own colour and each chakra represents particular aspects of our physical, spiritual and mental well being.

1   Root Chakra                

2   Sacral Chakra

3   Solar Plexus Chakra

4   Heart Chakra

5   Throat Chakra

6   Third Eye Chakra

7   Crown Chakra

Survival, Security

Pleasure, Sexual Centre

Seat of your Personal Power

Love and Connection

Communication,Truth Intuition and Inner wisdom

 Higher consciousness and Spirituality

Red

Orange

Yellow

Green

Blue

Indigo

Violet

The idea is that for us to be in our best mental and physical health each of the chakras should be balanced and in harmony with the body and mind, and with each other. 

For instance, the Solar Plexus governs our need to feel empowered and in control. If we get a “punch in the gut” (solar plexus chakra) that takes not only our breath away but also our strength.

The throat represents communication and if this chakra is blocked by preconceptions that do not support us then we may be “swallowing” our own truth. 

The crown chakra connects with our higher self but if we live all our life “in our head” we may never “touch the ground”.

Whichever way you view the chakras they certainly align with the basic emotions and instincts that we emotionally and physically experience on an everyday basis.

 In hypnosis chakras can be very useful to use as a connection between our mental and emotional feelings in a way we can actually sense and visualise.  

Also, EFT, Tapping or Emotional Freedom Technique fit very well with chakra work. The chakras can then be used as a simple metaphor that the unconscious can easily process.  Tapping on the significant acupressure points to relieve stress or past emotions related to each chakra helps us let go of these blocks in our system.

Whether you are familiar with chakras, just interested or they are an important part of your belief system they are certainly very fascinating. Using them like this can simplify the connection with our feelings and emotions in a powerful way. 

For more information about my work as a hypnotherapist, EFT, EMDR and Holistic Practitioner feel free to call or email rogerfoxwell.therapy@gmail.com    +447970218451