Nine traumatising feelings that abuse survivors are left to deal with.

Frozen in shock

Hypnosis and EFT can help deal with these nine traumatising feelings after abuse

Listening the other day to a woman talking about her experience of abuse when she was eleven years old, as she described how the events of the past still affected her everyday life she encapsulated in her phrases the many traumatising feelings that victims can carry with them for the rest of their lives.

“Frozen in shock” sums up how the body stores past trauma and until this can be unlocked there will always be a state of “Fight or Flight” operating throughout the nervous system.

“Carrying the secret” is a cross that victims of abuse may have to bear for the rest of their lives unless they can “lock it away in a mental compartment” to help them continue their lives with some form of internal safety. Otherwise it can be almost too much to bear.

“Fear of not being believed” when they were children alienates and “isolates” them from family and friends often along with “rejection from other family members.”

“Lack of Trust” becomes even more pervasive when the perpetrator was a family member.

“Depression” can then become a common illness with anyone who has been in this situation.

I have successfully worked with many clients who have been victims of abuse. Using hypnotherapy, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and NLP with knowledge and understanding can help achieve enormously important change.

I always work in a way that is sympathetic and mindful of my clients’ feelings and also in ways that can achieve the best results with the absolute minimum of distress. In fact it is often not even necessary to discuss or reveal any difficult detail at all to help clear past experiences. Having to go through the distressing details is probably one of the major worries that keeps many people from seeking help through therapy but for a skilled practitioner it is not necessary to do so to achieve powerful results. In my experience the old techniques of talking through the trauma in detail and almost reliving it are out of place and unnecessary.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with these issues I will be very happy to discuss how I help my clients achieve remarkable changes in their lives. Just email roger@rogerfoxwell.co.uk or call 07970218451 for a confidential chat.

Alcohol Abuse, the dangers and what you can do about it.

Alcohol Abuse

Alcohol Abuse

What does the term alcohol abuse really mean? We all know the word alcoholic and we know that certain people drink too much but where does the term alcohol abuse fit in? If someone is suffering from alcohol abuse it means that they may not yet be physically dependent on alcohol but the alcohol is already beginning to have a negative impact on their lives. This negative impact can take the form of relationship and family problems related to drinking, issues at work, driving while under the influence and irresponsible behavior patterns.

Left to follow it’s own path alcohol abuse can become a slippery path towards some very unpleasant experiences. Some may be able to sustain an outside appearance that everything is normal but this will be at great expense to family, relationships, job prospects and self worth.

However thinking about stopping is one thing and taking action is another. This is where it is very important to find a group and/or therapist to help give support advice and counseling in these situations. Some people get good results from meetings such as AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and for others therapy in some form will help them find the strength to get out of this destructive cycle.

A couple of books I can recommend are Rational Recovery by Jack Trimpey and Addictive Thinking by Abraham J. Twerski. However a book cannot replace qualified help and support and the longer this issue is left to develop the greater the danger that personal, physical, financial and emotional damage will occur. Although we often hear the terms genetic and disease used with regards to alcohol issues at the end of the day taking responsibility for our own health and behavior is the only thing that counts.

The techniques I offer my clients are designed to help take control of one’s life and thinking and develop the self esteem and confidence that everyone deserves to experience on an everyday basis. Hypnotherapy, NLP and EFT ( Emotional Freedom Technique) are powerful and empowering tools that have given so many of my clients the opportunity to get their lives back on track If you feel it is time for you to make a real change in your life call me on 07970218451 or email rogerfoxwell.therapy@gmail.com and I will be happy to discuss any aspect of this with you.

Need help with depression? Try EFT

Need help with depression?

Using EFT to help with depression

EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique is an Energy Psychology technique that has it’s roots in Chinese medicine and acupuncture. In this technique the client will tap with their fingers on acupressure points at the same time as verbalising their issues.

Emotional Freedom Technique is a technique that anyone can use at home to help alleviate a wide range of emotional problems but when working on more serious issues such as depression it is wise to work with an expert and qualified practitioner.

Helping clients with depression is not a simple exercise in the therapy room but when one has a technique such as EFT available it is amazing how quickly it can release negative feelings and past traumas that could normally take months if not years to even partially resolve. This for me is why EFT is such a valuable tool to be able to use when helping clients suffering from depression. So often it is not necessary to go digging through traumatising experiences from the past and if there things that do need addressing then it is often the case that clearing one past experience will free the client from many of the remaining discomforts around their past with so much less intrusive and upsetting work that may be needed when using other therapies.

If you are not familiar with EFT the idea of tapping around various meridian points on the face can seem a little strange at first so I will often just “drop” it into the session and ask my client to instantly just tap on the points that I show them. In most cases they are surprised at the sudden relaxation they experience and when this happens the client will immediately know that something important is happening.

Another important factor with EFT is that it is a technique the client can take home with them and use whenever they feel confronted by any difficult feelings thereby giving them some control over their daily experiences.

If you have emotional issues such as depression which have resisted any previous attempts to free yourself from, then EFT is a very powerful technique that could help you get your life back on track.

As a hypnotherapist and EFT practitioner I specialise in helping people with issues that seem not to respond to other treatments. My many previous clients know that it is possible to make remarkable changes and I see EFT as one of the keys to helping achieve those changes.

For more information 07970218451 or rogerfoxwell.therapy@gmail.com me and I will be happy to help you. It could make all the difference.

Does smoking help those with mental health issues?

Smoking

Smoking, stress and mental health issues.

There is an interesting recent article from Stanford School of Medicine relating to research into smoking and it’s effects on patients who are in mental health care. Contrary to the long held assumptions that smoking can help some psychiatric patients with their recovery new research comes to the conclusion that this is not necessarily a valid assumption.

The article Psychiatric patients given smoking-cessation treatment less likely to be rehospitalized, scientist finds is worth reading and some of the points it raises show very much the thinking going on in every smoker’s minds before they quit.

  • It was interesting that the research showed that patients who quit smoking using the programme were actually less likely to be hospitalised again for their psychiatric conditions. What I see here is that smokers often say that without cigarettes they would not be able to cope with life yet here we have people with serious mental health issues actually coping better without cigarettes.
  • It was noted that the long held view that patients would not be able to cope with their stress without cigarettes did not hold true and in fact the daily cycle of nicotine and withdrawal actually caused even more stress. This is what a smoker does on a daily basis. They are on a constant cycle of stress/relief/stress that takes a real toll on the body’s physiology and nervous system.
  • Perhaps not surprisingly the tobacco companies have supported this “smoking whilst in therapy” idea and sponsored their own research into it!
  • The idea that smoking calms the nerves holds up only when a smoker is in a state of withdrawal. However this only lasts momentarily and the smoker is back on the destructive highs and lows that do nothing for the long term health of psychiatric patients or for that matter anyone else.
Help for Stopping Smoking

 

If you are ready to Stop Smoking my unique programme has given hundreds of clients the freedom from cigarettes that they always wanted. For more information or to book an appointment just call or email and I will be happy to help.

Does depression make you feel helpless and hopeless?

Does depression affect you?

Does depression affect you?

Anyone who has experienced depression knows what a debilitating state it can be with seemingly uncontrollable feelings of sadness or anxiety, loss of interest in life and feeling hopeless and helpless.
There are many reasons people can suffer from depression. It could be bereavement, loss of something important in their lives or it may just appear out of the blue for no apparent reason at all.
When someone is feeling this way they probably know that they should be doing something about it but even that may be just one step too far for them to take. For some medication will help and for others even this may not get them to where they would like to be.

In talking therapy one of the primary aims is to help the patient share their feelings with someone outwith friends and family and hopefully over a period of time perhaps discover the cause of their feelings and help them to move on. Of course no amount of “just snap out of it” or “get a grip”, however well meaning is going to help and will probably make things worse. When someone is in that state of mind the inner resilience is just not there to light that spark of positive reconnection with life that the depressed person would so love to experience. However there are ways if one can summon up the mental energy to help oneself. Just a small step could help rekindle the neural activity in the brain that helps to switch on the states we desire and switch off those we don’t. This article by Dr Mercola http://bit.ly/16Isvnq has a range of possible ways to kick start the process and safely re engage in the pleasures of life that everyone else seems to be enjoying.

I work with a lot of clients with depression and in my experience an important factor, as the above article points out is finding methods to help turn the switch that can take us to a place in the mind where it is possible connect with the pleasures and quality experiences of life. Using Hypnosis, Emotional Freedom Technique and NLP with a qualified practitioner are powerful ways to safely release underlying issues and help move forward in life.
However just as important in my treatments are using simple tools that can be used on an everyday basis to help regenerate and bring back the pleasures, and positive experiences that are available to virtually everyone if we are ready to find them. I always tell my clients, “I don’t know what you will be thinking or experiencing at, for example, 5 o’clock this evening any more than I know what I will be experiencing but if you have the tools to deal with and in some small way adjust that experience to your advantage you yourself will have made a change and begun to learn that you can bring back some control in your life.”
(To ensure you are getting the safest treatments always seek medical advice first)

For more information please contact me and I will be happy to help.

Depression is common but are we talking about it

Depression is common but are we talking about it?

There was an interesting documentary on BBC3 this week (09/07/13) about professional football and how even the top paid superstars can be at risk from depression. It was presented by former Premiership player Clarke Carlisle who has first hand experience of the emotional up and downs and highs and lows top sports people can experience. At one point he had attempted to take his own life and is now very much involved in helping maintain and improve the best support systems for professionals in any sport who are having difficulties in their lives with depression and dealing with the pressures that a high profile sporting career can bring.

The most important message to come out of this documentary was that depression is still something that many of us find hard to talk about and even harder to discuss with anyone if we have it. When Gary Speed the Wales National Football Team manager and celebrated footballer took his own life in 2011 not even the closest members of his family knew of his depression and state of mind.

Depression can be triggered by many things including loss and bereavement, anger or loss of a relationship, childhood experiences, drugs and other issues. For sports people and those in the public eye the pressure can be absolutely intense and belief in one’s own value, loneliness (even with so many people around) and isolation are just a few of the cocktail of doubts and insecurities that can begin to eat into an otherwise confident person’s internal thinking.

But neither do we do have to be a mega star to suffer from depression. It can hit anyone at any time in their life or career. If you think you or someone you know may be suffering from depressive symptoms a quick search on Google will find a lot of information from reputable sources to help find out more about it. Depression is an illness that can afflict anyone whatever their role in society but the message is always the same, don’t keep it to yourself and speak to someone you can trust. There is help out there and one phone call could make all the difference.

Roger Foxwell is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, EFT and NLP practitioner dealing in many areas including helping clients with depression get their lives back on track. For more information call 07970218451 email roger@rogerfoxwell.co.uk or visit www.rogerfoxwell.co.uk 

Drugs and depression

Drugs and depression

When I first meet a client I always want to know if they are on any medication or seeing a doctor for their presenting issue. This is especially important for more serious mental health issues and for any physical issues that may be related to how they feel. For certain problems long term medication may well be the best answer and as far as I am concerned that is to be left to my client and their doctor. But even then some form of talking therapy is likely to be of benefit in many cases alongside any drugs.

However in a lot of cases taking drugs long term is never going to solve the underlying issues of why a person has feelings or behavior patterns that they would rather be without. I subscribe to regular newsletters from Dr Mercola in America and they always make very interesting and entertaining reading. This article  from Dr Mercola talks about how he feels that there is an over medicating in America of people suffering from depression and also has a lot of questions concerning statistics and information we are given about certain medications. Since we are often never far behind America this article is well worth a read.

Although there seems still to be a prevalent view that depression is something that one perhaps just has to live with or at best may take years to overcome in my experience that is not always the case and I have first hand experience, as have many of my colleagues, of being able to help clients make significant changes in their emotional well being in as little as just a few sessions.

Also as an update to the above this is a recent article on the BBC (health) website  by Dr Joanna Moncrieff where she talks about how putting patients on medication for psychological issues can be just a case of putting them into a “drug induced state” without ever addressing the real issues behind the problem just as Dr Mercola’s article does.

Alcohol and Hypnosis

Alcohol Addiction

Problems with alcohol, social and physical, are rarely out of the news these days and I find myself seeing more and more clients who are trying to get their lives back on track before it is too late. The success that I have had over the years has proved to me that hypnosis is a very powerful intervention that really helps clients get control back in their lives. A recent article in The Times helps support my experience so if you or someone you know needs help in this area it is well worth a read.