Working in hypnosis with Trauma and Abuse

Hypnosis Truama

I have long held the view that most of us who are wanting to resolve past traumatic experiences would probably rather not talk about and revisit the experiences again in their lives, in their minds or in their therapy sessions. Most of my clients suffering from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) may well have had many sessions of counseling, psychotherapy and retold their story over and over again revisiting each of those traumatic experiences in detail.

Now many people may prefer to talk through their issues and that is fine but in my view at the end of the day we are using therapy to let go of the past so that we can fully engage with our present and future. I am of of the opinion that continuing to visit those old traumatic experiences will only trigger more anxiety and stress.

This is why I use a mix of Hypnosis, EFT, and EMDR. (Emotional Freedom Technique/Eye Movement Reprocessing and Desensitisation. The real value of using these three together is that they can guide the client into a state of altered awareness or trance, both of which I would class as a form of hypnosis. However that is an argument for another day and has been going on for decades!

Once we engage the creative part of the brain on a deep hypnotic level we no longer need the conscious mind to do the work. This means that the client is free to let the unconscious mind do the work instead. Then the changes and release of past sensitive material can be processed unconsciously beneath the conscious awareness which is far less distressing.

Also, a lot of traumatic material is not, and never could be available to the conscious mind. I can’t remember being born and neither can you but that would have been a major traumatic experience at a time when we were at our most vulnerable.

I regularly work with clients with these issues and many times at the end of a few sessions they will have turned this issue around and I still know very little about the events they have been through because they would rather not talk about it. If a client wishes to talk through the past it is important to do so but certainly not necessary.

Are you feeling stressed by overthinking and the thoughts in your head?

Over Thinking

One of the amazing things about the human brain is that we can think and work things out in our head. This process helps us navigate through our complex daily lives. We can arrive at the right place at the right time and manage all those everyday tasks almost automatically day in and day out.

However thinking can also get us into a lot of mental complexity. Especially when it becomes obsessive thinking such as obsessive compulsive disorder. Now we don’t even need to have OCD to start getting stuck in a loop of nonsensical personal arguments with ourselves. This type of thinking can bring stress and anxiety into our daily lives without us even knowing it.

For instance we may have spoken to someone and felt they were a bit offhand or rude. But we don’t know anything about that person’s feelings or experiences that day, or maybe we just feel a little vulnerable ourselves. This does not stop our inner conversation getting straight into gear and giving all sorts of reasons why they “should have behaved better”, “what is wrong with them?”, “what is wrong with me?” etc. etc. This is our primal brain trying to justify our dominance or position in the primate hierarchy and since this thinking is developed from our primal feelings it is very hard to switch off.

Once our cognitive mind recognises that our brain is making a lot of this up it can help release us from this interminable loop of nonsense that seems to take up a lot of our everyday thinking. And it often is nonsense, or as I call it “Fairy Tales” since these thoughts are not based on facts but on us making up stories in our head.

The brain likes to make up “Fairy Tales”, stories, so that in effect we can “Feel Safe” and “Right”. To feel relaxed and safe is the state we would like to be in but unfortunately when we try to generate our “happy, feel good brain chemicals” by making up stories we won’t feel happy for very long.

So my 21 day challenge is to interrupt that “Fairy Tale” and call it out for what it is. It may feel a bit weird at first but after a while you will notice less of that sort of thinking taking up space in your mind. Don’t waste any more time telling yourself “Fairy Tales” that really have no basis in reality.

Then you really will feel safe, relaxed and comfortable.

How hypnosis can help Covid, Stress and anxiety

Stress and anxiety

As many of us thought when lock down started it would only be a matter of weeks before life would return to normal again. Unfortunately as we all know that was not the case and at the time of writing we are still in a state of not knowing whether things are getting better or worse.

What we will have noticed is how the stress of these restrictions, the changes in our everyday habits and lack of regular social interaction has taken a toll on our mental health.

Not that we may have particularly noticed it at first. It just creeps up on us and we don’t notice it eating away at our confidence, our self esteem and our relationship with ourselves and others.

It is in fact rewiring our brain and we don’t know it. So what can we do to protect our mental and physical health during these difficult times? One of the most important things in my opinion is to stimulate or tone the vagus nerve.

The vagus nerve connects right through the body from the base of the skull to the base of the spine. It affects so many important functions of the body and mind that it is surprising it has not been taken a lot of notice of until recently. It relaxes our voice, helps control our blood pressure and pulse rate, adjusts our breathing and gut function just to name a few examples. Pretty important I would say.

Now when the vagus nerve is functioning well, even if we have no idea what it is, we will be in a state of balance and relaxation emotionally and physically, whereas when it is out of sync we will be in a state of fear (Fight and Flight).

In lock down we are understandably sending out more messages of fear and worry and the vagus nerve will respond appropriately to the messages we send it. Even everybody walking around in masks will trigger it because we don’t see the face and our primal brain becomes worried whether we are safe.

Although the vagus nerve is controlling so many complex body responses the actual things we can do to help it and our lives run smoothly are in fact very simple.

Here are some simple suggestions that I use regularly and you can seamlessly add into your everyday life.

1/ Hum, whistle, sing. This stimulates the vagus nerve to send comfortable messages around the body. Even 2 minutes a day will make a difference and will probably become addictive after a few days.

2/ Meditation, Yoga, Hypnosis are all excellent ways to tone the vagus nerve.

3/ Simple stretching and yoga type exercises are very beneficial for mental and body health.

4/ Cold showers! Or just splashing cold water on the nape of your neck will engage the vagus nerve
in a good and stimulating way.

5/ Avoid too much social media and news. This can quickly put us back into the sense of danger and
we won’t even know why we feel so depressed.

6/ Go for a walk

See how simple that is! Give it a try and if you like those you can also try my 3 minute relaxation
video as well.

Just using a few of these tips will really help you now and in the future.
To find out more about how hypnosis, EFT, NLP and EMDR can help you and your vagus nerve
please visit www.rogerfoxwell.co.uk

Hypnosis for Anger

Hypnosis for anger

Can hypnotherapy help someone with anger issues?

Hypnosis is an ideal tool for helping clients with anger issues. Although anger is a natural human emotion if it gets out of control it can have severe and devastating effects on our health, relationships, self esteem and even our employment prospects.

Once the rush of brain chemicals takes over and the “red mist” descends it can be impossible to step back and take stock of a situation in any reasonable manner.

However if we can find strategies and techniques to help guide our body and mind back to more balanced feelings then it is possible to dissipate these negative feelings. This will then help lead us away from situations that at best could be very uncomfortable and at worst cause us a lot more trouble than we could imagine.

Using hypnosis to learn how to interrupt those old patterns will really help you control those negative emotions and save you from spinning out of control.

Hypnosis help for Presentations

Hypnosis helps

Help with upcoming presentations is something that clients regularly ask for help with. So how can hypnosis help with presenting to a packed hall or a group of coworkers?

This area comes within the realms of public speaking which often appears as a number one phobia. Fear of giving a presentation is ranked amongst social phobias which makes a lot of sense, bearing in mind that one of the top presenting issues of a social phobia is feeling excessively self conscious in public.

Now anyone can give the advice “pull yourself together, take a deep breath and just give it your best!” But we all know that it is a very different story when you are standing up there wondering what you are going to say.

The big problem is that these panic feelings are not coming from the part of your brain that is your logical thinking frontal cortex. These feelings are coming from the primal part of your brain which is there to protect you from danger and the primal brain’s answer to danger is to RUN.

That part of the brain is four times stronger than the thinking part of the brain so we need to bring in other resources that will help quieten the primal brain and allow the logical brain to operate at it’s best.

For this hypnosis is an excellent way of helping overcome phobias. It helps quieten and control the adrenaline rush so that you can get your well worked out speech or lecture confidently and presented in a logical and concise manner.

As a therapist I know that using Hypnosis alongside Emotional Freedom Technique and NLP plus other empowering techniques will help clients regain and vastly improve their confidence and self belief in these situations.

This turns what at first appears to be a threatening situation into a life and confidence

Hypnotherapy and EFT help for Dystonia

Hypnotherapy and EFT

Anyone suffering with dystonia should begin with medical advice and interactions to unearth any possible underlying physical issues that may be important to address before taking any further steps. However once all medical options have been explored is there anything else out there that could at least help make a meaningful difference to one’s life?

Well hypnosis may not spring to mind immediately but in my experience working with clients with dystonia there can be significant underlying psychological aspects beneath the surface, whether past issues or just the everyday stress and strain of life and living with it.

As a therapist, whatever the issue I am working with it is so important to address the whole person. Not only the presenting problem but stress levels, interactions with ourselves and others as all these and more can have a significant unconscious influence on mind and body.

Releasing old programming and opening new and previously dormant healthy neural pathways is key to achieving significant mental and muscular change.

I have helped many clients with this issue using Hypnosis, Emotional Freedom Technique, NLP plus other empowering trance modalities. “Telling” our muscles to perform in a certain manner is unlikely to help but given the right information a deeper part of the brain often knows how to rewire our sensory inputs in a smoother and more fluent way.

Please Call 07970 218451 or Email rogerfoxwell.therapy@gmail.com to Book an Appointment.

Happiness and Hypnosis

Hypnosys Helps

Happiness and Hypnosis may not be two words that you instantly link together. However clients looking for hypnosis are more often that not looking for happiness, and aren’t we all.

It’s difficult to achieve happiness if we have stress, anxiety and lack of confidence in our lives but hypnosis is a wonderful way to help release the blocks which can really hold us back from achieving our optimum self.

Wherever we are looking for happiness, whether in relationships, work, family or career there are many paths to help us achieve this goal. But without our creative mind on board, our logical mind is missing an important part in this process.

Hypnosis automatically connects to our creative mind and whether we are musicians, artists, architects, accountants, mothers or fathers we all need to engage that spark of creativity to help us achieve a sense of satisfaction in our lives and most of all with ourselves.

Your unconscious creative mind has the answers to this and when the creative mind and the cognitive mind begin to synchronise the changes can be massive. If you can close your eyes you can open yourself up to so many possibilities.

Let your creative mind “see it and feel it” and you then have the template to put into place the changes in your life that you know you deserve. Your creative unconscious knows how to do this and Hypnosis offers many wonderful opportunities to connect these two paths.

Can hypnosis help build happiness into your brain?

Hypnosys Happiness

Well the answer to that is hypnosis can help build whatever you want into your brain. But it is important to be clear on what you want first.

Like any journey we may have a point on a map that we are intending to reach but to get there could take us through many different towns and cities and unless we plan our route we will most likely get lost, waste time getting back on track, and even lose interest along the way and give up. Going for a holiday we will have investigated the countryside and beaches, places of interest and restaurants and cafes and chosen the places to explore.

The trick to a successful journey is planning and the most important part of that planning is knowing what we want when we get there. It is always a good idea to know in advance what the goal of our journey is and going for therapy is just the same. Hypnosis can take you on a wonderful preview of the changes you can make in your life. But only you can take the actual steps to help make it a reality.

Going for a holiday we will have investigated the countryside and beaches, places of interest and restaurants and cafes and chosen the places to explore. Think about what places you would like to explore that may help you, what attributes you have that can support you along the way, and how your unique skills can raise your energy to a higher level. I can help clients achieve a very pleasant hypnotic state but I do not know what is going on in their minds. However the state of hypnosis will help clear that mind of past blocks leaving space ready for the new material to take root.

Engaging the creative mind is the key to getting the best out of the logical mind and when they both work together then there is a synergy that will take on a mind of it’s own…except it will be your mind that is creating the change.

Can Hypnotherapy, EFT and EMDR help the yips?

Hypnotherapy EFT

In 2016, winner of 4 Majors and 300 top ten finishes,world famous golfer Ernie Els took six putts to get the ball in the hole at the Masters.

What was his problem? He had a bout of the Yips.

The yips is a golfing term that is usually but not always part of a putting problem whereby any golfer, pro or amateur can have the profoundly disturbing experience of finding the putter being “unconsciously wrenched from it’s intended path” and colliding with the ball in a completely different direction to the one intended.

However it’s not just golfers who can suffer from this experience but snooker players, musicians, darts and bowls players are just a few of the professionals and amateurs who can suddenly find all the delicately honed practice they have done becoming completely unstuck when they attempt to execute that important movement they have been practicing for a lifetime.

Scottish golfer Tommy Armour described the yips as “a brain spasm that impairs the short game” although once a player starts to experience this it is not unusual for it to take root in other parts of their game as well. Even Tiger Woods went through a rough patch with what appeared to be this issue with his short game chipping at one time.So what is going on? Well there are various theories and all I think, have some truth in them.

1/ The brain in effect sends a contradictory message to the body like a “short” across an electrical connection.

2/ That it is caused by anxiety.

3/ It is a form of “Focal Dystonia” a neurological condition that causes involuntary muscular contractions.

As a hypnotherapist it is important for me to look at all the possible reasons and circumstances that are causing the issue but at the end of the day everyone is different. Working on the yips with golfers, bowlers, rifle competitors and snooker players etc. my aim is to find each individual’s unique problem whether a misfire in the “electrical system”, a lack of confidence and/or the remnants of some past experience that has lodged itself in the nervous system. And even all three.

Using a powerful range of trance based tools such as Hypnosis, Emotional Freedom Technique, NLP and EMDR, has given me marvelous and empowering tools that have helped so many clients find the way forward with this issue while still fine tuning this work to an individual’s internal thinking and experience of themselves. And that’s when the changes take place. If you would like to know more please visit my website rogerfoxwell.co.uk Sessions are available online, by phone, and at my office in Glasgow, Scotland

Why it’s hard to lose weight only using will power and what you can do about it

Weight Loss

Hypnosis – Emotional Freedom Technique – NLP

It takes a lot of energy and continued vigilance to use the conscious mind to help with weight loss, and the chances for long term success are, as we all know, not good. Dieting is notorious for being able to achieve short term results but not necessarily so good for the long term. Counting calories is difficult and it is hard work to keep the momentum going.

Although making any worthwhile change is likely to need some will power finding the most efficient and successful option is especially important for weight control.

Hypnosis is a favourite way to change old habits and replace them with new healthy ones. However we have to know how to engage the brain chemicals we want and disengage the ones we don’t want.

Sounds complicated but with the right information it can be done. Serotonin, Dopamine, Endorphins and Oxytocin are all “feel good chemicals” being constantly triggered in the body. We just aren’t always consciously aware when they are operating and how to make them work to our advantage.

Dopamine gives us a “feel good” hit. But what we don’t always have is a buffer to first check if this is a healthy dopamine fix or just a short term gain? The question we must ask is am I going to enjoy that hit in a healthy way or am I just fuelling an addiction? Our brains are wired to look for dopamine hits but our brains are not always listening to our cognitive thinking process. We need to be able to weigh up whether something is healthy for us or not and be able to act on that information.

By eating that chocolate or doughnut when we feel sad, disappointed or bored we have been getting our shot of dopamine. But that is a fake hit that literally will continually need feeding. And unfortunately it will be followed by regret and an unpleasant shot of cortisol that tells us we have failed again.

The key is knowing how to recognise these “feel good chemicals” (feelings) and be able to respond appropriately by using them to our advantage. If we can do this then we will start to have some control over our unconscious thinking processes and achieve much better results.

Hypnosis, EFT and NLP are great tools to help us engage in this sort of work. They help our mind and body coordinate and connect so we can make powerful unconscious changes. This does not mean that we just close our eyes and it all happens. An important part of exploring these good feelings is our own engagement in the process.

So knowing how to engage your happy chemicals you will be able to engage your will power. This will really help you achieve the results you have been looking for. Knowing how to use these brain chemicals in the best way for your personal health and satisfaction will help you make more of the healthy choices you deserve.