Roger Foxwell Hypnotherapy | Clinical Hypnotherapy – Emotional Freedom Technique – NLP – IBVA

How long does it take to change a habit and make it stick? The accepted view is that between 21 and 30 days is the time span to change a habit and feel that it has become part of your lifestyle. Most of my clients wishing to stop smoking will find that they have no desire to do so as soon as they have finished the session but what if you want to stop smoking, change an eating pattern or even an attitude but would like to try a good old dose of will power? Well, why not give yourself a free 30 day trial?
We are all more predisposed to putting our money down on goods or a service if we feel that we have some guarantee in case we are not happy. On the other hand we find it harder to stick at something if we do not have a clear goal in our head. This goal may be feeling healthier if we stop smoking or lose weight, or changing an attitude and improving a relationship but if we do not give ourselves a goal as to how long we are going to stick at it to experience the benefits we may soon lose direction and give up.
So go on, give yourself a 30 day free trial. It’s free so what are you waiting for. You may find you like the change so much you don’t want to give it back!

Many of my clients come to see me to improve their confidence levels and it often follows on that they would probably describe themselves as introverts. This feeling of being an “introvert” can bring with it it’s own reduction in confidence levels but obviously we can’t all be extroverts and why should we?
So lets “reframe” or change the context in which we define introvert. First there is nothing whatever wrong with being an introvert and whether we are introvert or extrovert the important point is that “we feel OK in our own skin.”
If one or the other is your preferred way of being then enjoy being who you are. An extrovert could be described as someone who is socially involved and introvert someone who is less socially involved. Whichever you are, enjoy it. You can still be quietly confident!

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biopsychiatry

The Wolves Inside You

An elder Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life. He
said to them, “A fight is going on inside me.. it is a terrible fight and it is
between two wolves. One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret,
greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false
pride, superiority, and ego.

The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity,
humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth,
compassion, and faith.”

“This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other
person, too”, he added.

The Grandchildren thought about it for a minute and then one child
asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied… “The one you feed.”

In my last post I was writing about Creating an Opportunity every day. This does not need to be just in the business sense.

How would life be if we created an opportunity every day for postive effect in our family life and our relationships? Think of the transformations that would be possible and the improvements we could make in our everyday lives by just doing one extra thing that could help our family life or one small change in our behaviour or actions that would help us enjoy even more our relationships and friends.

It doesn’t need to be anything big. We are often so busy getting on with the business of everyday living that we put off until tommorrow addressing these areas. But just one opportunity created each day adds up to 365 in a year. That is a lot of change.

Are you busy building a business or setting something up but feel stuck?

“Create an opportunity every day” may well help to keep and also to get things moving.

Just by making sure that you do one thing each day that will contribute to your project will soon add up to a useful number of valuable of changes.

Each time I get an initial enquiry for weight loss or to stop smoking one of the things I will be ascertaining is whether it is themselves or their partner or family that wants them to make the change.
There are two reasons why this is important. The first is that the chances of a successful outcome are reduced if we are attempting to change for someone else’s benefit and if so we will soon find ourselves falling back into our old patterns of behaviour.
The second and most important is that to make a change it must be made because we want to do so. Granted, it will be great to experience all the positive spin-offs that may well occur but the most important change has to come from within ourselves. This change is a belief in our own value as a person and our own right to make an improvement in our lives. Without that belief we have no firm ground on which to initiate change and let it become part of our way of life.
The point here is that to be the person we want to be – to be able to help or be there for those that are important to us we need to value and believe in ourselves first. On a plane we are told in case of emergency to put on our own oxygen mask before our child. It makes perfect sense. Only by helping ourselves will we be able to help anyone else.
The more empowered we allow ourselves to become the more strength we have to be there for others.

If you have a speech or presentation to make here are a couple of tips to help you put what you want to say in a more authoritative and positive way.
First of all you can probably speak slower than you imagine. Remember you know what you are saying but your audience needs to process the information because they are hearing it for the first time. Leave space between each sentence to let what you say sink in otherwise they will be mentally trying to play “catch up” and may lose your point or the punch line to your joke.
Another simple tip is to allow your voice to lower slightly in pitch at the end of each sentence (unless it is a question). This will give you an air of authority and help you sound confident.
Also pitch your voice lower than you would normally. This also gives an air of authority to what you are saying.
When you have started to put these points into your speech then practise it. Practise it out loud, on your own, to your friends and to your relations.
Using tips such as these will help you put across what you want to say the way you want to say it.

Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation where we feel we need to say something about someone’s behaviour or the standard of a particular service. Sometimes it is important that we are able to put across our point but quite often the old adage of counting to ten really is a better way to handle things. In fact if we wait for 24 hours it is surprising how that all important comment we needed to make just does not seem so important any more.
Maybe that slight we took from someone can be explained by our own sensitivity or the other person’s problems. If a pebble is thrown into a pool it will make ripples but if we decline to throw our own pebble in then those ripples will soon die down. EFT is remarkably effective in helping us let go of these sorts of irritations and allow us to stand back and see how they are really not worth wasting our energy on. Literally a minute or two will nearly always be all we need to “tap it out of our system. It certainly beats carrying the “hurt” around with us for 24 hours.

Just been reading about a technique called “timeboxing”. I don’t think the concept is new even if the title is but it is still worth reminding ourselves of it anyway.
Hands up those who don’t suffer from procrastination? Well obviously I can’t see how many hands are up but there again you can’t see mine but I think 99% of us will have our hands in the air. (including me)
The concept is that to get yourself started (and that is always the hard part) choose a task or just a part of a task and give yourself, say, 30 minutes on it. Then choose a reward that you will get afterwards. This carrot and stick approach should soon get you started and the thought of a reward should keep you at your task for the alloted time.
The interesting thing about starting a task is that once we get going we often become so engrossed in it that we end up doing it for a lot longer than we set out to do. Once we actually get going our attention will switch to completing the current task. In fact we may even go on to a new one when we have finished the first one.
So there you have it. Easy. Before you know it not only have you managed to get started on something but you will probably have achieved more than you set out to!
You know – I think this is so simple but it works. I’m off for my reward now!