I’ll be happy when
Monday, June 28th, 2010How easy is it to fall into the “I’ll be happy when” trap? Will it be that new car, or new relationship? Maybe a new job or a new house? All these things can be very exciting and pleasurable but how long does the happiness last? Maybe soon we will be needing something else new and novel to keep that “happiness” going. Now there is nothing wrong with enjoying any of these things and more but are they real happiness experiences and aren’t we just putting off our happiness until later if we have to wait until our next achievement or shopping trip?
This “I’ll be happy when” trap also applies to our own inner work. We may be having a difficult time with various issues and feel that once we have resolved them or made them go away everything will be plain sailing. But that is not necessarily the case because all the other issues that surround just engaging in life are still going to be there. So realistically, yes, life is most likely to be a lot easier when we are not in a constant state of anxiety or depression but everyday life does not go away and we will experience the ups and we will experience the downs. The important thing is how we connect, cope and engage with the natural cycle of our everyday lives in a meaningful and positive way. So why not try this mantra - “I’ll be happy now.”
Simple meditation techniques done on a regular basis are a very valuable way to allow one to disengage from our inner treadmill and reconnect with ourselves. Try the link below for a wonderful selection of interesting guided meditations.