The two of us
I often buy The Times newspaper on a Saturday for the Body & Soul supplement. There are interesting articles and tips in most weeks and one that caught my eye this weekend was by Andrew G Marshall a couples counsellor.
The article took the line that there are often more than the two of us in our relationships because without realising it we bring with us people, influences and habits from past relationships, our parents and even our friends.
Just have a think about a particular habit that your partner has that annoys you. Or is there something that seems important to you and nobody else such as the way the table is set or the bed made? Does this remind you of someone else? Is it a “message” programmed in by your parents or peers when you were young?
Ask yourself is it your own thinking or a leftover message from the past? It really is worth going through those “little niggles” analytically to find out where they actually come from.